This is the question dreaded by most singletons out there any day of the year. It's an innocent question but it opens up an uncomfortable conversation. It's like they are asking "what's wrong with you?" or "I found love, what's your problem?" It's easy to turn this situation around. In doing research, I found some quick tips on how to answer these questions without wanting to kill yourself.
Answer: "I'm good... What's your problem? Jealous much?"
How many of us will actually admit that we like someone? How many of us will be one to make the first move? How many of us will initiate the conversation.... is there a particular way to do it? I've ran these questions past a verity of my friends and the majority speak that neither will do anything. So how is this suppose to work? If you are being courted do you actually catch on to it? Are we so involved with our day to day life that we dont recognize anything outside of our personal bubble?
Back in the day of our grandparents, their parents & so on.... There was a plan for women & men. It was like a road map for your life... there was literally a book and/or schools to teach women what to expect when their suiter proposed and how to conduct your life accordingly. Everything about dating was so closely monitored that no one could make a decision on their own.
But was it really that simple? I'd say not.... too many rules: No kissing on the first date. No holding hands until it's been determined that you are definetly "going steady", dancing must be done with a respectable distance between the two partners, dates must be shaperoned, your suitor must ask permission from the father just to go on a simple date and be home by 9pm. Oh... and lets not forget: NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE :(
But that is why I am so glad to be living in this century. I can listen to sad depressing music and quickly change the channel as I desire. I take the liberty to tell a man "Hey, you're kinda cute, wanna hang out?" without going through any legalities. I can explore different areas of this world and not be expected to make dinner when I get home. Superwoman by day and sally homemaker by night. Instead, I can take a sip of this exquisite wine called life without judgments.
Valentines Day Challenge.... Do What the Fuck you want because you CAN!!! Dont feel like there is something wrong with you simply because you are single. Take a stand and recognize that you know exactly who you are and arent afraid to take on the world by yourself. If you let someone special join then that's all good. Understand that you have control over your corner of the universe and can choose to decorate it however you'd like. Love yourself, love your family & friends. Love your surroundings and smile every single chance you get. Cheers to you my friends... Wishing you a perfect Valentines Day.
I hope its will be just the way you want it.
T
