How Single?

From the Vault! I started writing this post in 2012, but never hit "publish." Now that I've returned to my natural state of being single (I blame entropy), I concede that this line of thinking is as relevant as ever.

Let's take a peek at this time capsule from inside my brain.

_____________August 2012_____________

A dilemma. On the one hand I have found myself in an honest-to-God relationship. On the other, I still feel like I have relevant things to say in this blog. This makes me wonder - how single is "single"?

I guess it depends on who is asking. I don't mean anything sleazy, like "it depends" on how hot the guy is who is asking. I'm not talking slip-off-the-ring-and-let's-get-a-room kind of "it depends."  It's a serious contemplation on the nature of a relationship.

And a prime subject for a quick quiz!

1. Describe your weekend plans:
A: (bonus points if Netflix and ice cream binges are involved. Que cliche?)

2. What is your living arrangement?
A: (key swap, cohabitate, or are you the ruler of both sides of the bed?)

3. Your relationship status on Facebook reads:
A: (single? it's complicated? no comment?)

4. Are you single?
A: (do you really need a quiz to tell you this?)

5. Has someone "put a ring on it"?
A: (if yes, you really, really don't need a quiz to tell you this)

What questions would you add to this list? In your book, how single is "single"?

~Betty

Vulnerable

Helpless, powerless, susceptible.... These are some of the words that describe one of the strongest trait a person can have.  This is because being vulnerable means releasing the rains to unexpected possibilities.  In theory, we want to be certain that the end result has some kind of benefit.  But as we know life is never certain nor predictable.  So why should we set these expectations on taking a chance?

You know that change you've been dreaming about taking whether it be finding a new job, asking a crush out on a date, asking your boss for a raise or simply taking up a new hobby.  In order to start this new endeavor you know that this particular decision is susceptible to failure or success. Our fear of being helpless may have had a hand in declining certain adventures or our reluctance of releasing power may have hindered other's to invite new ideas to a joint project that could have improved it.  Fear of vulnerability has made it so we either set aside our dreams or simply not take action.

I like to believe that all of us were naturally born with this characteristic of being vulnerable.  When we were young we were fearless ninjas, queens and superheros.  Our imagination took us where ever we wanted to go and anyone who was around joined in without question.  We embraced ourselves to new ideas and experiences and with one simple question "will you be my friend" we had a million friends on the playground.

So what happened?  When did we all stop believing we could ask for help or take a chance to experience something out of our realm of possibilities.  Why are we so guarded?  Why does it take a natural disaster to help out a stranger in need?   I think the world would be a better place with us accepting our failures and championing our success with the foundation of vulnerability.  Recognize that moment in yourself when you say "lets do it" then follow through.  Don't be scared of failure but embrace it because without the challenges of life you wouldn't be able to walk the path you were meant to conquer.  Our hearts are a symbol of love, peace, acceptance and wisdom.  So tell me why don't we use them to make our decisions and become a better society.


"If you tell life what it has to be you limit it.  If you let it show you want it wants to be.  You'll open doors you never knew existed."



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